I am excited to share the news about the release of a Czech edition of my book, Betrayal, Trust and Forgiveness, just published by Maetria, a publishing house in Prague. (Publication was first delayed because of the pandemic, and then further delayed due to the war in Ukraine). . . .
Maetria is offering a unique online Seminar which will act as both trauma recovery workshop and Ukraine Crisis fundraiser. Please enjoy this interview with me and Maetria’s Jakub Moulis where we are discussing the book and upcoming Maetria Seminar:
Interview with Maetria’s Jakub Moulis
“The Journey from Betrayal to Trust” on June 14, 2022. 6–9 pm CEST in Prague 10-am-1:00pm MDT in Calgary
Workshop Fee: 600 CZK / $33.08 CDN / $25.73 US
Online Workshop on Zoom in ENGLISH with Dr Beth Hedva and Czech Translator
This seminar is for “All those who themselves struggle (or help others) with trauma and shock from injury should be there. Through storytelling, experiential process, and practicing Dr. Beth Hedva’s T-R-U-S-T meditation, you will gain methods to awaken your essence and reconnect with the meaning of your life.”
(Registration form is in Czech…If you do not read Czech, copy and paste Czech words into google translate)
50% of the workshop fee lends support to the over four million refugees flooding into neighboring countries (including over 250,000 in the Czech Republic) through the efforts of People In Need Ukrainian Emergency Appeal Selected by Maetria, this local NGO is “founded on the ideals of humanism, freedom, equality and solidarity. We consider human dignity and freedom to be fundamental values.”
I hope you can join us for the workshop, and please share with those who might benefit.
Some of us are “Seers” Some of us are “Dreamers” and “Visionaries”. Others are “Mediums” or “Channels” and those who offer energetic healing or guidance.Whatever your natural spiritual gifts may be, you may like to join our circle of individuals engaged in personal development and spiritual growth. In this program I will use tarot cards as a focal point for entry into your intuitive awareness.
Meets 4 Tuesday evenings 7:15 – 9:15 pm April 6, 13, 20 and 27. Fee: $280 + Service Charge and GST (includes 3-month unlimited access to the video library). Group rates: $150/person for groups of 4 or more **All tickets are non-refundable.Each session includes time for learning, reflection and practice, a chance to explore and share your gifts, as well as practice to further develop skills with others.
TO REGISTER: email firstname.lastname@example.org with your contact information to reserve your place.
I will facilitate this experiential program to create a time and place to hone your intuitive skills through the practice of giving and receiving readings. In each class I will demonstrate how to do a reading (using a tarot card spread from a volunteer classmate as an example), Q&A, and ‘private-break-out room’ for you to practice giving yourself, or another class member (your choice) a reading. Experience helps, but is not required as we will be learning from each other. 3-month-open-access to my Video Library is included in the fee. We will mainly be using the Universal Waite Tarot Deck; but feel free to use your deck of choice.
Week 1- Learn to ‘read’ yourself and others using symbolic creative thinking Awaken intuition by creating a ‘healing story’ using tarot card images and personal associations. Practice combining the position a card takes in a tarot card spread card images and symbols together with your own personal associations to images to create a meaningful insightful story
Week 2 – Expand intuitive insights using psychic sensitivities. Practice reading yourself and others, by expanding symbolic thinking to include all ‘12 senses of embodied awareness’–the usual 5 plus 6) gut feelings, 7) telepathic transmission of emotions, 8) clairaudient transmission of ideas, 9) clairvoyant images and symbolic thinking, 10) intuitive pattern recognition, 11) spiritual discernment and 12) realization.
Week 3 – Making Intuitive Connections Develop the intuitive gift of pattern recognition by exploring the relationship between cards using color and numbers. Learn how to interpret relationships between cards, and their position in a tarot spread. Risk taking intuitive leaps into heading meanings-beyond the card’s position.
Week 4 – Get Creative! Define your strongest intuitive gifts, explore your personal style, recognize barriers to intuition and how to release them.
I am looking forward to seeing you in April! Happy Spring!
Here is my preview of how YOU can get the most out of 2021. — 2021 By The Numbers and the Stars — is one hour long. It is worth taking the time to watch it (in small doses or all at once. My recommendation is: Sit down with a cup of tea and a notebook and click on the video below. I hope, together, we can optimize 2021’s amazing possibilities and help prepare for the challenges and opportunities to come..
Click onthe video below to watch Welcome to 2021 by the Numbers and the Stars (1 hr)
Eleven months ago, on January 12th, 2020, long before the Covid pandemic hit the news in North America, I was invited to offer perspective on what was to come in 2020. Using the ancient practices of numerology, astrology and tarot, I explored how we could bring our gifts forward, despite foreseeable challenges. Take a look at the video as you reflect on this last year and reflect upon what you (and we) were meant to learn in 2020. PLEASE . . . Share what you have learned . . . Tell us what practices you used to stay healthy amidst the challenges you may have faced. . . and how you have brought your soul’s gifts forward . . .
ALSO– I hope you can join me for a peek into 2021 on December 13th, ONLINE at Yoga Nova Studio’s 2021 By the Numbers and Stars. 60% of your $25.00 fee for their educational fundraiser supports Women In Need Society to help disadvantaged women and their families this winter. Scroll down for detailsor to register Contact Yoganova ph: 403- ph (403) 478-0771 e: email@example.com://yoganovastudios.com/
December 13th 330-430pm ONLINE $25 [A YogaNova Fundraiser: 60% donated to Women in Need Society]
Sunday December 13 at 330pm Dr. Hedva will be offering a look ahead to 2021 through the ancient practices of numerology and astrology. What makes learning with Dr. Hedva so incredibly unique is her depth of knowledge in both these practices and her ability to help us manage whatever it is that life has in store from us. Do not miss this opportunity to learn from a true guide and healer. $25 REGISTER NOW
Learn the Tarot
6 Sundays Beginning January 17th, from 330-530pm,
Take this exciting opportunity to work with world-renowned Dr. Hedva on one of her passion projects; the classical tarot. Dive into the deep wisdom and insight contained in the images of these cards and this system. This course will change your understanding of the tarot and of the messages within this classical art. $420 [A YogaNova Fundraiser: 60% donated to Women in Need Society]
Dr. Hedva held core faculty appointments in Antioch University’s Department of Clinical Psychology, and John F. Kennedy University’s prestigious Department of Consciousness Studies in California. Dr. Beth Hedva made her reputation by blending ancient and indigenous cross-cultural healing practices and spiritual traditions, with modern psychological best practices to promote an integrative approach to community health and wellness. Dr. Beth Hedva is a licensed Psychologist and a Marriage, Family and Child Counsellor.
Additional resources include access to video content from Dr. Hedva’s library of online learnings. You will need to purchase the universal Waite Tarot deck outside the primary cost of the course. Dr. Hedva is donating all of her proceeds to help disadvantaged women in the New Year.
We are very lucky to have the support of Dr. Beth Hedva as we move into the New Year. It goes totally without saying that 2020 has been a challenging year—the one thing we might all still agree on is that we are happy for it to be coming to a close. Dr. Beth Hedva is an internationally recognized authority in the field of change and has led an illustrious career studying and teaching all over the world. She made her reputation by blending ancient and indigenous cross-cultural healing practices and spiritual traditions, with modern psychological best practices to promote an integrative approach to community health and wellness. Please look at her website to learn more about her offerings and working with her:http://hedva.ca/dr-beth-hedva/
Sunday December 13th at 3:30pm Dr. Hedva will be offering a look ahead to 2021 through the ancient practices of numerology and astrology. What makes learning with Dr. Hedva so incredibly unique is her depth of knowledge in both these practices and her ability to help us manage whatever it is that life has in store for us. Do not miss this opportunity to learn from a true guide and healer.
Next year we are re-offering our “Learn the Tarot” workshop on Sundays from 3:30-5:30 over 6 sessions. Registration is available now. Dr. Hedva is donating all her proceeds to help women in need. 2021 By the Numbers and the Stars Sunday, December 13th at 3:30pm Investment: $25.00 To register Contact Yoganova ph: 403- ph (403) 478-0771 e: firstname.lastname@example.org://yoganovastudios.com/
Learn the Tarot 6 Sessions beginning Sunday January 17th 3:30-5:30pm Investment: $420
Below is an edited transcript of the Yoga Nova Live Stream from March 26, 2020.
“I want to thank you Natalie for the invitation to be able to share some really simple techniques and steps that all of us can use to create calm and reduce stress during these times of high anxiety as a result of the Covid virus.
These are the same tools and techniques that I developed for Recovery Workers and First Responders of the two largest and most deadly disasters of this century. These easy-to-follow steps are to help you help your family help your friends, and help yourselves also, to be able to calm yourselves and extend help and care to others.
Right now each of us is a First Responder—just because this is a pandemic reaching each of us worldwide.
These tools worked for survivors and victims of the 2004 Southeast Asian tsunami; and victims of the earthquake in Haiti in 2010 where they also suffered a cholera epidemic following the earthquake; and the tools that you’ll be learning here, today, can really help you as well.
Let’s start with our first step.
Step 1: Connect to Your Own Inner & Outer Healing Resources
The first step is to be able to CONNECT to your own inner healing resources and outer healing resources.
Inner healing resources are available to us with every breath we take. We know from yoga that each breath contains not only oxygen that soothes and calms the body by relaxing the muscles–AND a subtle spiritual energy that strengthens the nervous system and soothes and calms the soul–with each breath you take.
So let’s start right now with a few long slow deep breaths. It takes only 90 seconds of long, slow, deep breaths to be able to activate oxytocin and begin to counteract the stress of cortisol that runs through the physical body.
Begin by breathing in and out to a count of four: In – two- three- four, and out-two-three-four, in-two-three-four, and out-two-three-four, Just notice how the chest rises and falls with each breath you take, bringing a gentle massage to the internal organs of the body, and your muscles – relaxing the body as you breath in….
With each exhale letting go with stress…
Just allow yourself to keep doing slow, deep breathing as we go through each of the five steps.
Connecting to inner–and outer resources is especially important. We’re doing physical isolation to contain the virus; but, that doesn’t mean we need to be emotionally isolated from others who we care for and love. In fact, it’s especially important to find ways to reach out to those we care for, and to those who care for us.
Another way to enhance oxytocin is to engage in compassionate, caring conversation with people that you know– and even those that you don’t know–like with connections through social media and chats on-line focus on extending to others through caring conversation. We’ll be talking more about that in our third step.
When we are connecting with healing outer resources, it’s important to get information, certainly, but also remember limit information overload. Watching television all the time to find out what’s happening now with the virus can actually add to your stress.
Instead, limit how much you’re taking in, and begin to observe, and modulate and notice how different activities and situations are impacting you.
Step 2: Begin to Observe Yourself & The World Around You
This brings us to step 2 – begin toOBSERVE yourself and the world around you –including the people around you–with what we call mindful awareness.
Mindful awareness is enhanced by the breath, and so as you breathe in and out scan your body scan your thoughts and your emotions.
Notice if you’re having experiences of tension in your body. Perhaps your heart is pounding, or you have a dry mouth. Perhaps you’re noticing that you have digestive issues, or difficulty sleeping maybe even nightmares–these kinds of physical symptoms are absolutely normal symptoms when we’re facing uncertainty and feeling a little bit out of control.
We can soothe those feelings by becoming aware of them — breathing in to the experience — and then just putting its side — and returning to the breath.
It’s also very common to notice if you’re having emotional feelings like feeling worried about the future, or having doubts about what’s going to happen, perhaps feeling irritable or angry, or even scared, or a little more short-tempered. These are common and normal reactions to feeling out of control.
And so it’s important to begin to find ways that you can connect with your own inner sense control– Which brings us to the third step—DEEP LISTENING to ourselves and others
Step 3: Deep Listening to Ourselves & Others
We can take control of becoming aware of what it is that we’re going through and find ways to share feelings with others and also to listen to others with the ears of your heart–to have compassion for ourselves and others–because we’re all in need self-care right now.
Every single human being has a need to feel heard, seen and understood.
So when you are sharing your feelings continue to stay present with yourself by breathing into your feelings– appreciate what you’re feeling and name it — and share your thoughts, feelings and experiences in words–whether it’s by writing in your journal, or when you share with a family member you happen to be isolated at home together, or perhaps by a phone or video conferencing call with friends.
Remember, when we put our feelings and thoughts into words–when we name a feeling–it actually contains the energy.It gives us a handle on it.
It’s important to realize when we share with friends there’s nothing you need to do other than simply listen. Listen with the ears of your heart — and keep breathing — to help you stay present with them, no matter what it is they happen to be going through.
Because as we share our feelings and our experiences with another, we hear ourselves… And we gain insight and understanding into what it is we actually need right now. This brings us to Step 4.
Step 4: Engage Insight, Intuition, & Creativity
and, that actually is the fourth step – to ENGAGE INSIGHT, INTUITION AND CREATIVITY – to ask for guidance from yourself and your own inner knowing Self about what you can do right now to create healing and calm for yourself and others.
The experience of intuition and creativity is one of the opportunities for healing right now.
One exercise that I often like to do with groups is to have people create a title on five pieces of paper:
one page for the body
one for the spirit
one for the mind
one for our emotions
and then one for our energy
and begin to brainstorm: Create a list of ways you can attend to and offer care to yourself energetically, spiritually, emotionally, physically, and mentally.
For example, did you know only 10-15 minutes of self-massage or giving a massage to someone else will begin torelease soothing oxytocin in the body. Oxytocin allows the whole body to calm down, and this begins to soothe emotions too. Even if we’re alone we can do self-massage. And certainly if we’re sequestered with family, this is a wonderful way to engage in self-care. Giving healing touch and massage to someone activates the release of oxytocin for both people.
When you add the breath to that –breathing in and out –it’s a double dose of relaxation and soothing ourselves.
Enhance your intuition by engaging your creativity…
Engaging in the creative arts is a very powerful way to enhance the experience of bringing forward our creative energy to help ourselves and others. There are very distinct creative tools used for healing all over the world in every culture I’ve ever worked with.
singing and writing songsand stories
music, playing music, playing an instrument
dance and movement
prayer and meditation, quiet contemplation, silent reflection
connecting with nature– getting out in nature, taking a walk and breathing the fresh air; and that can even include connecting with a pet if you have a pet at home
Creative Arts are universal healers. The arts connect us with our inner Creator… inspiring our creativity and imagination…Start with creating new routines at home. Like breakfast, lunch and dinner time; playtime and work time; create time for household chores, time for connection with others and also life-renewing solitude to connect with yourself. All that goes better with music in the background to inspire the soul (instead of spirit breaking ‘breaking news’).
Consider what you can do right now today to create calm and self-care for you, and also for family members, and those you care for.
We’ve actually found in psychology studies how extending care to others actually helps us connect with our own inner strengthand inner creative resilient spirit... which brings us to the final step.
Step 5: Empower Self-Care
step five: EMPOWER SELF-CARE for yourself and for all of those around you.
As you stay in contact with, and aware of, all of those around you in your immediate environment, and those who you are reaching out to via video conferencing, or telephone calls, or texts, or emails – this capacity to encourage self-care – by becoming a model to self-care yourself – encourages others.
Your example contributes to the extension of healing to our communities.
As you become aware, these practices that I’m describing become on-going:
Connecting to yourself and others in healing ways
Being mindful and using the breath to continue to return to your center
Deep listening to be present when sharing feelings
Using intuition and insight to create your next step to reduce stress – Ask yourself: “what I can do right now that can help?” and then
Empowering Self-Care — Leading by example
Keep practicing Self- care: Do what helps over what hurts. Follow intuition, creativity and guidance. . . AND become an example for others. This how you actually extends self-care to others and help all of us.
In closing today, here is an example of self-care that was done by a young friend of mine, Georgia, the 8-year-old daughter of Bianca Sinclair, who trained with me in Embodied Awareness and is a Certified Embodied Awareness Facilitator. This is what Georgia drew when she was asked to draw a picture about:
“What can I do to find my peace when I’m upset or worried?”
So think about what you can do to encourage self-care for you, your family and your friends – – and share that with us on this blog.
I think ‘recovery’ may be a misnomer. It objectifies who and what we are in essence. Discovery is more what is required of us….to take off (dis-cover) what conceals the essence of who and what we are in our core—in spirit—To learn to wrap that ENERGY in nothing more than awareness—and then to embody who we are.
The etymology of cover is Old French stemming from the word covert, which translates as hidden.
Our inner core-our essential nature and spiritual Source has been hidden, covered over with all kinds of physical conditions and social-conditioning
In essence, we are all pure energy taking a multitude of forms. Heat and temperature, sound, light, bio-protons, molecular vibrations… transmitting and emanating fields of force that create and re-create our experience of LIFE…
It seems, instead of honouring our intangible inner essence, we often relate to the eternal energy within us as though it is an object.
So… I question the idea of ‘recovery’ from trauma, pain and suffering which (yes) just comes with living in a body while interacting with each other.
Seek to discover what is beneath, and at the core of this beautiful animal body that houses us with so many layers of reactive nerves that stimulate glands and bodily functions–releasing hormones and other signals—all wired to our over-active territorial reptilian instinctive brain, triggering our emotionally reactive old mammalian limbic brain–despite logic and abstract understanding provided by the more evolved, thoughtful new mammalian brain (which is capable of integrating all those signals using the right and left hemispheres of the cortex).
Even though there may be more promotion these days to re-cover, to merely up-date yourself —like recovering a piece of furniture—now with a more acceptable cover – more social-media savvy, more Madison avenue ‘beautiful’, a better brand to represent the ego-self, with a new style of relating to ourselves and others as objects, while continuing to cover over the extraordinary spirit at the core of being.
Are we simply to re-cover what has been hidden with a new ego- a new persona? Are we making an object of our inner Self–as we relate to ourselves and others at the surface level only?
At best, maybe we aim to re-cover the eternal spirit with a ‘higher’ Self, expressed through an ego that is in greater harmony with that which was (and remains) covered over.
What has been hidden beneath innate body-reactions, beneath social conditioning, beneath learned spiritual practices, the rituals we worship and other conditioned responses?
DIS-COVER rather than re-cover—Ask questions rather than provide answers. Explore, and keep being curious. Then explore some more. The Source of energy at our core is infinite and eternal. Define yourself, for and from within yourself.
How do you discover the essence of who you are as a Spiritual Being?
What helps you embody and express Eternal-Essence while living in your human form
This is the time to Dis-cover who and what you (and we) are, in essence–discovering the deeper truth of our essential unity with every ‘thing’ that exists- animate and inanimate, tangible and intangible—all emitting Creative (and destructive) forces-all working in concert with an even greater Mystery.
Are you ready for a new perspective on life… and to play the part you are here to play… while our world appears to be turning upside down? 2019 is inviting us to get over our hang-ups and take a new look our lives, our communities and life on our planet. We need to look at life from a completely different perspective.
The secret of how to do this is encoded in the ancient symbol system of numerology, and depicted in the images of the tarot.
If we add these numbers together: 2 + 0 + 1 + 9 = 12 = 3. In the Tarot the number 12 is symbolized by ‘The Hanged Man’. The number three represents the unbridled creative energy symbolized by the Empress — the Great Earth Mother who has the power to create and re-create life on our planet.
This Divine Feminine energy is the One within each of us who has the power to bring us to live new life– to give birth to fun, joy, love—and the beauty of Life in harmony with ourselves, each other our beautiful planet Earth, and all life on the Earth. No wonder the Hanged Man is coming along to help us (personally and collectively) get over ourselves and get a new perspective on life!
In order to get the most out of 2019 we need 4 primary skills:
Make friends with mystery and trust your intuition (High Priestess – 2)
Demonstrate trust through the courageous risks you take (Fool – 0)
Become a clear channel and communicator of your divine life’s purpose (Magician – 1)
Bring your light into the world for your own sake and for the sake of others (Hermit – 9)
IF YOU LIVE IN CALGARY — On January 5th, I have been invited to offer a unique workshop on how to awaken these inner resources in Calgary.
Here are the details:
WHERE: Mount Royal Neighborhood (SW Calgary), T2T 0P8 (Pre-registration Required)
WHEN: January 5, 2018 (2:00-5:00pm)
PRICE: $25.00 + 5% gst ($26.25 e-transfer until January 4) or 35$ + 5% gst starting on January 5 or at the door
Seating is limited. Social to follow… please inquire upon registration!
If you can not make it to the workshop… journal on each of the above four qualities… and share your insights with a friend. Share wisdom, encourage each other to communicate who you are and what you are here for as you make your contributions to others for your own sake and for the sake of others.
Expansion, contraction and polarization are the hallmarks of our current age. How do you find and return to your center amidst this cycle of accelerated change? Numerology is a wisdom-tool used by the ancients that can help us understand how to work with polarization.
In the Western Mystery Tradition the number 2 represents an archetypal Feminine Force which symbolizes the creative potential and receptive nature of the universe. Aboriginal teachings call this “The Great Mystery”. This ‘Great Mystery’ includes everything that exists: complementary forces and contradictions, point and counter-point, and that mystery within human consciousness that is able to find the point of balance between what appear to be opposing forces.
Since the year 2000 we began a new numerological cycle that is marked by the number “2”. We have entered a new millennium that shines light on the awakening of the ‘great mystery’ that has the power to bring us into harmony and balance within ourselves, with each other, with our environment and our cosmos. Though for many, the awakening of the Feminine Spirit within our world (and within ourselves) has seemed to launch swinging from pole to pole amidst a multitude of uncertainties, rather than resting in the equipoise.
Ultimately this aspect of the Feminine Spirit represents the principle of wisdom, harmony and balance. This place of inner wisdom exists in both men and women, boys and girls. It is in every thing that exists.
Like the Chinese Yin-Yang symbol, the Western image of black and white pillars symbolize duality: expansion and contraction, masculine and feminine, outer and inner, what we call ‘good’ and ‘bad’. It also represents the positive and negative poles of one’s life experiences (personally, and collectively).
The first decades of our new millennium have been full of contrasts: We have experienced extreme polarization and unprecedented examples of our collective ability to transcend conventional and historical barriers. Horrors like 9/11 which highlights socio-economic disparities between rich and poor / urban and rural / economically more developed and less developed nations are at one end of the continuum. Add to that environmental catastrophes, like rising ocean temperatures which put the marine ecosystems in jeopardy. Between world-wide environmental and human made disasters, the Internal Displacement Monitoring Center (IDMC) in Geneva, said, (in 2014) we could expect a 60% greater chance of needing to flee from our homes compared to the previous four decades.
At the other end of the continuum, examples like humanity’s global response to the 2004 tsunami in S. E Asia we can (and choose to) collectively move beyond our fears to extend a new vision of hope and help across cultural, racial and socio-economic divides. Likewise, despite reports in 2016 Organisation for Economic Cooperation and Development reporting a 650% rise in terrorist fatalities in the world’s more developed nations (as witnessed in Paris, France, the UK, the US and other more developed nations), the Institute for Economics and Peace (IEP), Global Peace Index reports suggest we are actually living in a more peaceful world. For example, the 2016 Global Peace Index, recorded higher levels of peace in 93 countries, based on finding lower levels of extra-judicial killings, torture and state-sponsored terror, along with the withdrawal of all but four military forces from Afghanistan, (out of the 50 countries that provided assistance).
Polarization shows us where we stand, and shows us what we need to learn in order to come to balance, peace and harmony. Personality clashes and power-struggles arise on both personal and collective levels. Conflicts are reflections of our personal and collective need to grow in wisdom and call us to learn new ways of relating to each other.
Jungian depth psychologists suggest the resolution of opposites happens on both a personal and collective level when we recognize and accept each person, and every culture or nation is full of contradictions, and because of this, others may act differently than us, or be different than we expect. In the image of the High Priestess, the moon’s reflective light symbolizes intuition as revealed through self-reflection and insight. Self-reflection and insight are the resources one needs to resolve the tension between opposing forces in one’s own nature.
It is common to react emotionally when someone is different than us, or when we feel different from them. Guilt or shame about being how we are, perhaps blame, pain or aggressive feelings may come up. For some, laughter, uncertainty or discomfort arises. Power struggles are common, as we try to make others conform to our expectations, or we try to comply with their expectations of us as a way of resolving the discomfort of these ‘shadow’ feelings. The shadow is a term coined by C. G. Jung, and it represents those rejected, unconscious and uncomfortable parts of us, traits we deem to be socially unacceptable. These traits vary from person to person and culture to culture. Learning to be present with differences, (instead of placing a value judgment on differences) is called ‘owning the shadow’. Soon it becomes clear, feelings that surface–guilt, shame, blaming, pain and other feelings– are reactions. These emotional reactions are reflections of our own patterned responses and socially conditioned experiences.
The truth is, we all contain both strengths, (which are identified as constructive, positive characteristics) AND weaknesses, (based on vulnerabilities, needs or so-called negative traits) which, when disowned, denied or deemed socially unacceptable, become unconscious destructive forces in the personality of an individual, culture or nation. Oddly enough, a distinctive blend of strengths and vulnerabilities define the personality of an individual, culture or nation, and distinguish us as unique.
It bears repeating: polarization and confronting our differences show us where we stand, and reveal what we each need to learn in order to grow in wisdom.
Instead of judging or condemning one another for being different than us, or different than we expect, we make peace with ourselves and each other by accepting we each have strengths and weaknesses, gifts and flaws. We can, and are learning to appreciate and accept our differences. This allows us to extend compassion to ourselves and each other when we face blind spots, weaknesses, flaws, ignorance or lack of insight.
As we give birth to honoring and respecting the Divine Feminine expect to see a new kind of balance of power emerging, over the next decades (and over the next 2000 years).
The focus for this cycle of time is to create and maintain a world based on harmony and balance between what appear to be opposing forces: expansion and contraction, male and female, outer and inner. Western Mystery traditions call the alchemy of seemingly incompatible elements transmutation. In Hindu culture says this weaving and blending of opposites is called ‘tantra’. Tantric spiritual practices, ranging from philosophical studies and subtle mediation practices to sacred sexual practices for couples, will become ever-more popular over the next cycle of time as women and men come to love the ‘other’ within, and in partnership with each other .
Own The Shadow: Learning to Love the ‘Other’
Instructions: Take a moment to reflect on a situation from the last decade that evokes harsh criticism or judgmental attitudes. Perhaps you can remember a time you felt angry and resentful toward someone and talked about them behind their back, or engaged in gossip about a family member, co-worker or former friend. Perhaps you were the object of gossip and suffered from ostracism, or felt shame or embarrassment about your own mistakes.
ACTION: Use reflections on gossip, judgment and anger to explore your own shadow.
Make a list of the negative traits by listing your judgments, criticisms or frustrations.
Next, circle the one that has the most energy.
Now reflect upon your personal, ancestral or cultural history with regards to that trait.
Observe the psychic pattern and how it impacts you.
Notice how old you were when this pattern got set into motion.
Imagine what your earlier self really needed at that time. It is normal, natural and human to have needs.
Forgive yourself for being a needy, dependent human being. Instead of self-hate, recognize and accept your needs. Now imagine what would have fulfilled your needs then? What would have helped, instead of injured or hindered your growth?
Make a commitment to care for yourself, to sooth your fears and heal underlying injuries. Identify resources that can help you care for yourself, sooth your fears and heal. Practice self-forgiveness first. Forgiving is linked to gratitude.
“What have I gained, or learned about myself, my strengths and weaknesses?
What is the universal teaching in my experience?
How is my experience a reflection of the human condition?
What was this experience for-giving ‘to’ me?”
Notice how self-forgiveness leads to forgiveness of others for their human frailties. Share your wisdom, gleaned from your life-experience. Become a resource for others who may be in need of similar healing.
Some of us think our way through life, others feel our way through.
See, hear, feel and perceive the subtle flow of hidden forces at work in your daily, ordinary life. Clear your mind, open your heart and expand your awareness. We learn to listen to ourselves by listening with our whole body and soul. Open your inner ear, and listen to the quality of the sound of your inner voice.
Do not get caught in the content of the words–instead notice the quality of energy in the thoughts. Allow your whole body to speak to you. Notice where the energy arises.
Acknowledged sensations, and breathe into them.
Assimilate your experience, slow it down by taking a few deep breaths–and feel it in your body.
Appreciate the energy in the physical felt-sense, and let it shift into an emotional feeling.
Allow the energy to keep moving. . . Notice if memories, images, pictures or other impressions arise.
Let your intuition begin to put the pieces together and your create insight and meaning out of your experiences.
[image credit: Heaven Can Wait 2010]
We learn to listen to others with the same sensitivity. To acknowledge what someone is saying. It helps to slow down (and breathe) as we listen and take in what is being said, so we can appreciate the emotional quality of the energy behind what one is saying. You may even have images, picture or other subtle impressions that give you insights into another’s experience. This capacity to listen deeply to another is enhanced by embodied awareness.
In one of our embodied awareness seminars, a participant Stacy said, “Deep listening has been beneficial for me both personally and professionally. I have found it has increased my awareness of felt sense and my understanding of emotions (mine and others). It has also increased my confidence in my intuition. I practice deep listening within dyads and with family and friends the feedback has been right on…..Yes! I am right! ” In the past I have always doubted myself so I am so grateful for the opportunity to really solidify this practice for myself and increase my capacity in such a profound way. It is creating expansion in all aspects of my life. Deep listening is allowing me to become more embodied completely”.
What changes for you, when you listen deeply to yourself?